Setting up the nursery, attending birthing classes, celebrating with friends and family, and answering the questions of “When are you due?” “Is it a boy or girl?” and “How are you feeling?” These were all the situations I anticipated when finding out I was pregnant and due May 12, 2020. What I wasn’t prepared for was being quarantined, wearing a mask, and letting friends and family know that when baby finally arrives they would have to wait to meet him or her until it was safe.
Pregnancy, labor, and delivery themselves are filled with unknowns, but expecting a baby in these unprecedented times only adds additional fears and emotions. If you are feeling anxious about being pregnant during the COVID-19 pandemic I am here to tell you, you are not alone.
So during this challenging time where can you go to find reliable information? I often find myself scrolling through Facebook which inevitably brings to me to some article about pregnancy but who knows if the information is accurate? For the best information, forget your Facebook feed and head to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) or The March of Dimes.
As a CDPHP member, I signed up for Mom 2 Be and have gotten pregnancy resources and access to The CDPHP Care Team who can answer my questions. Here are a few key points that will hopefully have you resting just a little easier during your pregnancy, whatever stage you may be in.
You should not allow COVID 19 to deter you from successful breastfeeding. Just like so many new norms you may need to take additional steps to be both successful and safe.
Not long after your baby is born, you’ll need to make a routine trip to the pediatrician. When we took my now 11-year old daughter to her first pediatrician appointment, it took us about an hour to travel just a few miles, as we didn’t drive more than 20 miles an hour! We were so careful and there wasn’t even a pandemic. Getting your new baby out in the middle of COVID 19 can feel overwhelming.
To help protect yourself and your new baby, follow the advice of your pediatrician when scheduling follow-up visits. Many pediatricians have special times set aside for newborns such as early in the morning before the office even opens. Additionally, many offices are expanding the use of telehealth to answer parents’ questions. When planning your visit to the pediatrician, don’t be shy about having a conversation with the office about what they are doing to minimize the risk of exposure.
I remember visitors stopping by the house after the birth of my two daughters (now 11 and 8). We had people in and out for days if not weeks coming to snuggle, visit, and ogle over our precious new bundles of joy. Right now, however, this is too dangerous as one of your visitors may be contagious but not have any symptoms and unknowingly expose you or your baby to the virus.
It won’t be easy to put your foot down, and you can be sure there will be pressure from grandparents who cannot wait to hold their new grandchild. But be firm about not having visitors during the time period advised by your pediatrician.
I also found that having these conversations with your partner ahead of baby’s arrival may reduce the amount of anxiety or awkwardness that could arise once the baby is here. Explain to friends and family it’s not personal and it’s only temporary, but the best way they can show their love to this new life is by staying within a safe distance.
Luckily we have so many unique ways to connect with friends and family to share our new baby news! FaceTime, Zoom, Facebook LIVE, Houseparty, and more are just a few of the digital options you can use to have a “meet our new bundle of joy” reveal with those who are desperate to share in this special time with you.
You can prepare yourself with all the information you can get your hands on, but during this challenging time you will have days where you are sad, scared, overwhelmed, and just exhausted. That is totally normal and ok. I have had every emotional outbreak that is out there and I am still here. Reach out to your circle (virtually of course) and tell them what you are thinking and feeling. It will help, I promise.
Try and focus on the new life you are bringing to the world and how you can use those weeks postpartum to just bond with your sweet new baby. Stay safe momma.